Why I Don't Do incalls Anymore (A Safety Evolution)

Posted by Julia | 4 min read

I used to meet clients at their homes or offices. "Outcalls" they're called. Seemed convenient and clients liked the privacy.

Now I only work in hotels. Here's why that changed.

Outcalls put you completely in someone else's environment. Their space, their rules, their comfort zone.

If something goes wrong, you're trapped in an unfamiliar location without easy escape routes.

Hotels have security, other people around, public spaces. Client's homes have none of that.

The power dynamic shifts when you're in their private space. Some clients become more demanding or pushy on their home turf.

I had a few bad experiences that made me rethink outcall safety.

One client seemed normal until I got to his house. Then he became weird and possessive. Didn't want to let me leave when our time was up.

Another guy lived in a isolated area with no neighbors nearby. Made me nervous the whole appointment.

The worst was a client who had hidden cameras in his bedroom. Only found out because one wasn't hidden well enough.

That violation of privacy and consent was the final straw for outcalls.

Now I explain to potential clients that I only meet in hotels for safety reasons. Good clients understand and respect that boundary.

The ones who push back about hotel meetings usually have bad intentions anyway.

"But my house is more comfortable," they say. "Hotels are impersonal." "I'll pay extra for the convenience."

None of those arguments matter more than my safety.

Hotels cost money and logistics are more complicated. But the security is worth it.

Professional hotel staff, security cameras, other guests nearby. Multiple exits and public spaces.

If something goes wrong in a hotel, help is available immediately.

In someone's private home, you're on your own.

The outcall clients I lost weren't worth keeping if they couldn't respect basic safety requirements.

Most regular clients adapted to hotel meetings without problems. The professional environment actually improved some appointments.

Safety evolution in this work means constantly reevaluating what risks you're willing to take.

Outcalls seemed fine when I was newer. Experience taught me the hidden dangers.

Now hotels only, no exceptions. My safety is worth more than client convenience.